Series of Life Events

Assalammualaikum,

I hope all is well.

We had a long long day last Sunday. I received an appointment after lunch, was late. Then I met up with my sis, Mama H, then went home with husband.

My nieces & nephew came over. I cant believe we just celebrated her 18th birthday that Sunday, 27th. The same girl which I took care of since birth 18yrs ago! How can you grow so fast? Know what? You girls will always be my precious babies. You will always be our little girls in our eyes.

Husband and I then went out - leaving together with the kids and their dad - to join his family for a great makan-makan session. Thank you SIL & BIL for the treat! We pray that you both will always be blessed with great health, wealth & happiness.

I had a rather long day on Monday as well! I was out tutoring my niece and nephew, then I met up with husband to collect our wedding photos & videos. Then we went dating at Woodlands Waterfront. Then he exclaimed how date-deprived we were during our courting and engaged moments. It was awesome dating as husband and wife. We talked a lot and about everything, shared our views, and all. That place changed quite a bit. There's a restaurant there now, right at the bridge. So we had waffles to fill up.

Then we drive back home to recharge. We flipped through our photos and we are pleased with our cameraman's work. We will be watching the wedding videos on Friday together with my parents. I am pretty sure it will be great! Can't wait!!

And it is now his 15th day! I know I have been posting a lot about the husband's success in doing the cold turkey. Well, how can you blame me? I am proud of my husband's effort, and good attempts to be a better man. It has been a good 15days of him being smoke-free, and I love it. He smells better, looks more pleasant, and I love him so much!

Anyways, I still receive SMSes regarding the babysitting advert I posted back in 2009. Amazing eh? I wish I can afford to half my income and go back to babysitting to double up the joy accomplishing the job. Truth be told, I can't. I can't live with a mere $600-800 a month babysitting. I can't live with a mere $1.5-$1.6k a month (that is if the parents can afford!) going over to client's place to babysit. I can't.

I guess I will consider and get back to babysitting when I have children of my own, and when I have enough savings to sustain a simple and blissful life as a family unit. Afterall it has always been my dream to be a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom - in case you don't know what it means).

Simple and blissful to me just simply means that we can sustain and maintain all necessities and have no outstanding debts. Maybe I'd be just that at 40-something going on 50 - when I am half-way done with the house loan. Who knows what the future holds?

Speaking of house loan, we are still waiting for our second appointment with HDB. We will be looking forward to all the loan approvals and to our future home. May everything goes smoothly, and as desired.

Lastly,

Yours Truly,
Happy Me.

Wassalam.

Our 1st Month

Assalammu'alaikum,

How time flies, it has already been a month since I am his wife. MasyaAllah, the greatness of being his wife has been all good, Alhamdulillah.

He eats whatever I cook even when it failed. He will only correct me after he has finished eating what is on his plate. There are not many men out there who would react the way he did. He smiled, eat an finish his plate. I did say sorry midway because it was too diluted, he calmly just say, "Yes, it is".

We continued eating- me with so much guilt. He was already hungry, he must have been angry that food wasnt tasting good. I waited, and finally asked, "what did i do wrong?" He smiled, look at me in the eyes and told me, "its okay, next time just add more chilli to blend". I am just so lucky, aren't I?

He has treated me with so much patience, and with so much love. I couldnt possibly ask for more. I just hope and pray that we will continue to be patient and love each other more as our marriage grow.

He is on his 8th day of being cigarette/nicotine/tar free. He has done so well, and I am so proud of him. I hope he stays and remain as a non-smoker, for the better. He smells so much better, he looks better, and he can only be better for me, and for us.

This day, I hope and can only ask for good health, better wealth & abudance of love and happiness for him, and for us.

Do pray for us. We appreciate it.

Oh, and my Uncle, my favorite Uncle, he has a third stroke relapse. He is currently in TTSH, i hope he recovers soon.

Do pray for him too.

And my mom, alhamdulillah.. Her sugar in blood level is within control and is in the normal range now. Alhamdulillah, may my parents both always be in good health and always be with much happiness.
Do pray for them too.

Now, let's just say I am 3min late for a tuition slot. I hope she still remember what we did last week. I need to test her quickly to recap before moving forward.
And yes, why not? Pray for her too, may she has a clearer understanding and do well for her exams & may she make both her parents proud. InsyaAllah..

Amin! Thank you~

Yours Truly,
The Happy Wife, Daughter & Tutor.

Wassalam.

Husband's Day 7 of being narcotine-free

Assalammu'alaikum,

I would like to just share this happy day. My husband has successfully be narcotine-free for 7 days today. We celebrate by buying ice-cream & his Magnum last night after we have a walk around the garden and exercising (more like playing actually) at the fitness corner.

I turned in early last night due to a bad headache and horrible horrible tummy cramps. So, yes, that answers you.. No, we are not pregnant yet. I hope to get positive after this, because it would mean a November baby for us. Again, I will try not to be too hopeful.

I hope my husband continues to be strong to fight his withdrawal symptoms. He has been coughing out a lot of phlegm, have been having body aches, and sometimes chest pain. I tried to keep up with him, and trying hard to always be there for him. Just sometimes, these eyes just shut itself. Even when he screams "GOAL" into my ear last night, I could only manage to wink an eye open before mumbling back to sleep.

And so, today he had his review check up on his leg, and a day surgery is required. I marked the date down, and had planned for a holiday sometime before then. I hope everything will go as planned. May my husband always be strong, healthy, happy and always be loved.

I am going to get that Folic Acid supplements. I did a quick research, it actually is as important to take it before (at least a month before intending to get pregnant) just as much as it would be when you're pregnant - for the baby.

Gotta go for my lunch, catch you when I blog again!

Yours Truly,
The Happy Wife

Wassalam.

Diary of a Structural Designer

Assalammu'alaikum,

Now, I just want to write as a structural designer. Life as a structural designer is truly dependent on the Engineers that we were assigned to. If the engineer is good, life will be a breeze. Your questions no matter how precise and how deep into details, the engineer will gladly answer you without hesitation and you can't help but feel confident of his work, and ultimately yours as well.

I have worked with a number of great engineers - most of which are from the first company I worked for. And here are some of the common types of engineers I've worked with over the last 6 years.

The Knowledgeable
These type, they are truly beyond knowledgeable- they don't need to have a drawing in front of them, they can tell every feature of the structure at the back of their hands even when they have 5 projects under his design.

Decisive  A
These type are very decisive which is good, but this type A do not welcome suggestions - these are pretty easy to work with provided it works. In some cases, the designer has worked on a similar structure and had gone through a living nightmare due to the stringent authorities who do not accept certain designs, so with these kind of engineers, we designers can either just play along pretending the nightmare wont re-occur, or we can stand firm and tell him about the previous project that we have done or ask the previous engineer to have a word about it with him.

Decisive B
These type are very decisive, make good judgement and consider suggestions from us. These ones are the best type to work with. They are decisive, thus making us work faster without being unsure. Should they be unsure, they are usually upfront and assure us that he/she will get the answer by a certain timeline.

Noisy Unsure Egoistic
NUE type is the worst kind ever! They talk a lot, they love talking when you're talking. They will still enjoy talking even when they are talking to the Director. They will ask you questions and then answer it themselves while you're answering, they like to reason with all their wrong judgement and reason with their second guessing, they love reasoning when they are clearly in the wrong. Guess what? They love it more when they are right in one small part, and they talk and talk about it like they hit the lottery. The worse is when we, designers, go to them to ask about the designs, where some dimension may be missing or unclear. They always answer with a prefix, and the prefix is a killer to us. This type of engineer will forever answer you with "I think " and sometimes with a long pause before answering. It makes us so unsure, and so pissed, because it will be very likely that this engineer will come back to us and say "Oh, earlier was wrong, it has to be xxx - i think"
Frustrating is an understatement!

Last Minute
This type is tricky is a lot of ways. This type of engineers like to keep their designs and mark-ups up to the very last minute. The kind of situation will be such that he/she will go to you with this stack of mark-ups and designs and tell you they need it by end of day at 3pm or tell you they want it first thing in the morning at 5pm! Crazy, of course!

You draw first, I design later
This type is usually for those engineers who have been stuck with you from the first day. They trust your experience, knowledge and feel that they can do the design faster after we produce the drawings for them. However, I am usually uncomfortable when a new engineer or someone whom I have never worked with asked me to do this. I will be reluctant because I don't know how he like to design. I became unsure because I am afraid he will take my daft inputs to be real. (I just experience one - and he asked me for the calculations!)




-to be continued-





I have more types to write about, but will keep it for later. Work is piling! I got to go!! Have a great lunch peeps!





Yours Truly,
One of the Structural Designers.

Wassalam

To being smoke-free

Assalammu'alaikum family & friends,

I hope the week has been kind to all of you, as it has for me. Alhamdulillah.

Its Friday, and may we always be blessed with love, happiness and health.

My husband has finally decided to put the cigarrette out for good. This sudden decision following the latest rule by law with regards to areas where it will be prohibited to smoke, and this includes corridors, void decks, sheltered linkways and bridges among the many listed.

Alhamdulillah, his rough journey started on the night of 14th January, and today is his 4th day. May he persevere and stay strong to fight the withdrawal symptoms. I remember how I went through mine just 3.5 years ago. I struggled a lot as he was still smoking then. I curb all temptations to have just one last puff. Alhamdulillah I managed, and I have since became a non-smoker. I hope he too will succeed in becoming a non-smoker for good. It is afterall for everyone's well-being, and it would be much easier if we are blessed to have a child soon.

I am defintely a proud wife to have a husband who is man enough to quit smoking. I hope he can reach the optimum 100days to confirm his status as a non-smoker. Please do pray for him to be strong.

I am but free. I have been packed with activities all week! I secretly wished I could just split myself and get more work done and out of the way, and I guess that is everyone's fancy dream too.

Last year, I was tutoring thrice a week. This year, I am tutoring four times a week. I have more sidelines this year, prayers for better cashflow doesn't come free. One has to work to earn it - one can only reap what one sow, right?

As I am approaching the front door of my office, I will have to put my phone away. I shall type away again, sometime soon to fill up your day.

Until I blog again, do continue praying for us.

Yours Truly,
The Proud Wife

Wassalam

Diary of a Wife...

Assalammu'alaikum,

It is the beginning of week 3 of 2013.

Today, I failed horribly with the half-boiled eggs. Husband forgave me and ate it anyway. I am so lucky, right? Alhamdulillah.

I believe it when they say, a good husband is one who forgives his wife and treat her well daily no matter how she may have wronged- except for those that is forbidden by Allah SWT. Likewise, a wife has to listen and obey to the husband's wants, needs and instructions no matter how difficult - except for those that is forbidden by Allah SWT.

Today, we both will be working till late. He called me before lunch to say he'll be at the masjid for zohor and wont be lunching with me. Then he added, "dun need to cook me dinner, we both will end work late tonight" How considerate, masyaAllah, Thank you Allah for blessing me with a husband so good to me.

He constantly reminded me to talk about my day, although I usually avoided it. It is not because I have secrets, or wish to hide anything from him. It is just that I dun like talking about work unless it is really necessary like when I faced the flirty old man back when I was with Samsung in early/mid 2010, or when the company is such a pain like when it was back in late 2010 - 2011..

Now, I am blessed with a great job, a wonderful boss & board of directors, a memorable wedding & a husband that is perfect for me. I am glad, so glad & thankful that he stepped into my life, first becoming a great friend, then close friend, then we fell in love, got engaged, and now happily married, and insyaAllah, we will guide each other to be closer to Allah SWT.

I am working on business ideas at the moment, I want to advert with VC, but my business blog isnt that ready, neither is my business FB. I need professionals, but I dun have that big a budget. I have probably made a loss of $100 last yr, and I hope I can break even this yr. So right now, I really need to push for my collections to sell. Business is due for renewal in March. So that gives me 3months to buck up.

I am currently on my way to tutor my niece & nephew and I am guessing that I've walked the long way - I am actually walking like how I'd ride to their place. That should explain well enough.

Oh wells, I better get going with the tutoring, and blog again another day.
May tomorrow be a better day for you and for me.

Yours truly,
The Blessed Wife

Wassalam.

Browsing throught the past comments

Assalammualaikum,


I was just browsing through the comments I have been receiving via my blogs, and I realized my blog hasnt been interacting enough lately....


Below are what I found.
A happy comment in 2012 with regards to my countdown. I hope she made it down to my wedding and grabbed my Crochet me Simple Baskets.

A series of unpublished comments (16 of them!) due to its extreme content that will only shame the sender through the whole of September 2011.

Last interactive comment I receive was in 2010.
A good series of it was back in 2007!

I have only made $20 out of my personal blogging and some small amt which went to my PayPal account and of which I had lost its username and password, which is obviously pathetic. I am waiting for more reviews to write, but haven't made any actions to source for it, so I only had myself to blame.

I found a few old blogs which I used to maintain but no longer as I fell back out of it. I still receive some calls of enquiries although my last entry in that blog was in 2010. I have been blogging for business as well, it hasnt really moved a lot, and it doesnt help that I've been struggling to find time lately.

What was worse is this syndrome that I start to experience for the past 3 days. I feel sleepy and tired all the time no matter how much sleep I had the previous night. I basically can fall asleep at any point whenever I take a  seat. I can read and sleep. I can wait and sleep. I can even be checking FB on my iPhone and sleep! Cronic, right? I dunno why I am such a sleeper of late. It's worrying me so much!

Someone indicated it could be early signs of pregnancy, but I am not going to set my hopes too high. If it really is just that, then it's good, if it's not, it's okay. I personally find that it's not quite possible, as I will only be ovulating this week. Anyways, who knows eh, HE decides who to give what and when anyway. In any ways, it's just 3 weeks before we can gauge for sure of the possibility.

Do continue to pray for our well-being, and may Allah SWT reward to many folds for such kindness.

Anyway, I actually intended to write my 2013 Goals here, but I dunno if I should after some thinking. I will however consult my husband, and see what he says.. You should be able to see my resolutions/goals here soon if he is okay with it.

Anyways, I just wanna share this gorgeous picture which I had taken from my photographer during our outdoor. I find this uber cute!

It took my husband and I quite sometime to really warm up to the camera, so my three photographers/videoman from VisionOriginal were all estatic with this outcome in which we both let it out. Special thanks of course, to our good friends who had tagged along to make this shot possible.

I was hoping for my BFF to catch the bouquet, but she didnt. Instead, our driver caught it, and he is really going to get married next year. I hope for a true love to come shoot my BFF's heart to shower her will endless love that last her a lifetime full of happiness. And may it come soon! I will be extremely over the moon to hear such good news from her.

She is awesome! Even awesome is nothing compared to her character, I wonder what took that prince so long to see that in my BFF. Hurry will ya?

With much love,
His Missus.

Wassalam.

2013 will be good, InsyaAllah

Assalammu'alaikum,

I hope all is well like how it has always been or better for all of you like it is for me.

I was browsing through, and I realised all the blog links I have had all along are all no longer valid. It seems like I'm the only survivor who continues to type her daily entries.. SO I delete it for real, and I added the one blog which I had followed and never looked back. She inspires me.

I am at the moment stealing some work time, I was browsing a bit into the past. And I wonder how these people are doing now. Have they changed, like how I had? Are they still around and still remember me in some way? That left me with a smile, because whatever the answer, it didnt matter to me anymore. I had far better concerns now. Alhamdulillah.

I had lunch with my husband earlier, he had collected his new pair of spectacles. He looked so dashingly handsome in my eyes and more so with the matte silver frame now. And I couldnt help but secretly admire him. This time, all I can think of, all I am concern of, all I worry about, evolves around him. The husband who accepts me openly, willingly, and gracefully. The one man who accepts my flaws, and work on my strengths. I will be forever grateful for his kindness.

We recapped what happened through 2012 during our lunch date. So much, no, too much had happened. All we hope is that we grew up stronger, closer and better with all the hurdles that are meant for us.

For now, I have about 7 days to wait. To wait for Nick's call so I can clear myself off the debts. And so, this is what the old folks meant when they say, Allah SWT has set aside a series of windfall for those who build what is good for them and for others, and for those who did that for his sake. Alhamdulillah, all thanks to Allah SWT. HE knows what is best for us for HE knows what we don't know and clearly knows what we also know.

May our marriage always be blessed and always be in the positive light, insyaAllah. Please do continue to pray for us.

With much love,
A happy & contented Wife

Wassalm

1st day, 1st post of 2013

Assalammu'alaikum,

How did you countdown? I didnt. Was too lazy, my husband was understanding enough to let me laze around and through the last of 2012. I am thankful and I am grateful. Alhamdulillah...

A lot has happened through 2012, and I hope to leave what upsets me in 2012. May 2013 welcome more good memories with the increased responsibilities as newly weds.

We went to Masjid Haji Muhammad Salleh (Maqam Habib Noh) to pay his nazar, and to pray for our marriage to last till Jannah insyaAllah, and for prosperity & harmony in our families.

It has been 11days since we solemnized. Everything has been good so far, Alhamdulillah. May all continue to be well, insyaAllah..

My husband may not be perfect, but he is absolutely perfect to me. InsyaAllah!

With much love,
Mrs Wife

Wassalam