"Pain in the arse" BF vs "Bullshit" BF Part 3

The thing is, some people thought a bullshit bf is a pain in the arse, when it's just plain bullshit that irritates the whole heart and mind system.

The most irritating part is the fact that some bullshit bf wants to be a pain the arse bf, but sadly it can never work that way.

The pain the arse bf, is pretty much someone noone wanna have, plainly because there will never be honeymoon period or a special name to call you by. He will call you every name he used to call his friends, which often include, "Oi", "Eh", "Stupid", "Ugly" and "Fool". And after 6months of name calling, he will decide to call you some legendary name like "small kid" or "lil sis" or just plainly "You".

Almost every girl would opt for a bullshit bf because he would be calling you every nice name you can recall which includes, "Honey", "Love", "Sweetheart" and "Wifey". The thing is, it's not that I dun like these names that he calls me by... It's just that, you can't tell if he means it well or is just randomly calling you by that because he's been calling another woman the same. It's not that I want to, or think so, or doubt the loyalty that is being portrayed. It's just, i dunno..

When a pain in arse calls me "sweetheart", i turned to look at him in the eye, and put on a doubting smile wondering why he's being so nice.. and then realised he simply means it.. Often, it only happens when there's only the two of you. And you always have to put up with him calling you "Oi" in front of his friends, and have his friends to scold him, and then you simply push them aside and say, "Yes, Stupid, what you want?" and get away with it just fine. Not a single argument. But when a bullshit bf calls you sweetly, and out of a moment of folly (being in midst of doing something or engaged with something or something like that) you replied, "What?" and get some greyish face looking back at you like you've just broke his heart. Often, an argument follows. And it's the same vice versa. Which is truly strange. Irony, more like it.

I can put up with a pain in the arse calling me stupid and ugly all the time, but could not stand a bullshit calling me the same - not even once. And that includes implication of such callings. Phrases like, "I told you before, you dun wanna listen" translates itself into "Stupid woman, dunno how to listen now want to complain". I guess that explains my greyish looking face and often silence follows, not wanting to go further into the conversation and that too became my fault.

The thing that sets me thinking is the fact that a pain in the arse know what the heck Quality Time means to me, but a bullshit keeps thinking it's just time together regardless, and sometimes, invite others along or worst - asking me to invite others along.

If I ever need to define Quality Time in my own words, it'd be time spent just the two of you where both of you think there's only the two of you, when you will just do spontaneous fun things together, or go to somewhere secluded to enjoy some scenery or simply the wind to just unwind and talk about random things in the relationship, of the things we went through together, of the things that happened along the way. And at the end of the day, be cozy somewhere else... And then get home sealing each other a special kiss before we part away... In the conversation, it'd be just about the two of you, and noone else is going to be in the picture. Even if there's other names that are bound to pop in, the focus should remain to both of you, and not on the other names that are mentioned.

Sadly, some people thought quality time is just talking and them listening. Sigh.. That, my friend, is when the woman face a problem, she wants to talk it out and have you to listen and not say a word unless she ask you to say something. That is not quality time, that is a way to show her you cared, and you'd be there for her. Or when a man feels like he had accomplished something and wanna feel proud about it and show off. Woman just listen to them and not comment anything - actually, i think men are always and forever showing off something. And we women just keep listening and nod. But strangely, when women wanna do that, the men start gagging about it not being anything too special to wow at. so these women just end with a grey face, and just sink low.. And yet, it's became their fault, again.

If I were to really write down the whole list to compare these two people... i could have written the list for a year and still not finish it..

So I decide to end it here, and hope people could understand that it's not the pain in the arse that i am having problems with... it's the bullshits that i have to put up with that truly irritates me..

Random: I hate repeat telecast on jokes and funny programmes. the only comedy programmes that can go on repeat telecast and work great is those of P. Ramlee's... And jokes are meant to be funny, not hurting..

The old shirt I wore yesterday made my quote today, "Don't just break limits, give me a break.. "