List of advised when trying to conceive

Assalammualaikum!

As promised, I am listing the advises given to me as I try to conceive...

1) Start taking folic acid
2) Start taking fish oils
3) Eat healthy
4) Look at baby photos more often
5) Play with babies - visit new mums and thier babies
6) Relax, don't stress.
7) Enjoy yourself while at it, don't over think about it.
8) Minimize movement after deposit is done (I wish they are talking about cash deposits, LOL!)
9) Pray and don't miss it (harder done than said)
10) Pray together with the husband, it will be more powerful

I guess these are the best ones. I don't want to appear as trying too hard, but how easy can it be? I am eligible to see the doctor and get fertility treatments now that we are a year old together. I am hesitant, because I want it to come naturally. Seriously, I never knew getting pregnant is this hard when you want it so much!

With my first pregnancy, it came as a shock. A pleasant surprise for me but not for Skinny R, whom I cant stop blaming for my loss. I mean Skinny R and I hardly did it, and I got pregnant. And now, here.. when I really want it, when the Husband and I have been trying everytime, I just somehow didn't end up pregnant yet.

Many people consoled me, saying it is okay... Afterall Allah SWT knows best, perhaps He wants me (or us) to accomplish more better things before welcoming his most honorable gift. Perhaps my business should run first before I can fall pregnant. I am not sure, for I don't know what lies ahead. I just hope that everyone including me will be given that strength to continue living as a whole.

No woman is any less of a woman if she couldn't bear a child or wasn't blessed with one. People should probably just stop expecting that from any married couple. Not that I ever stopped asking if the newly weds are blessed with one coming up soon to even expect people from asking me that golden question, but I guess it is an opportunity to get more tips and prayers from people in some way.

Afterall, what is said is also a form of prayer right? Oh I wish I wish I wish I can call a little one my own...

Enough on the little one that has yet to come, tomorrow Husband and I will be in-charge of a wedding photobooth for our friend. And so the next post will probably be about their joyous day.

Till I blog again!

Wassalam,
Jun

Trying so hard for our little one..

Assalammua'alaikum!

I finally had the courage to post on my FB my frustrations of trying - but all that being just not good enough - with negative results every month. So.. This month.. it is 4days to one year of actively trying.

My dilemma was just between having faith (that maybe it is just not time yet), having myself checked (which breaks down further to a dilemma between going poly to be referred to KKH or to a Gynae for some tests and advice), or to just try other means (traditional massage).

What I posted:

Translation:
Sometimes, it seems that others are getting pregnant fairly easy, some don't plan/intend to be, whilst some planned at hit the spot. I don't know about me... I don't know if I should leave it to faith, if I should go for massage, or if I should see a Dr (Gynae) for fertility treatment. What do you guys think?

I wasn't expecting anyone to come back to me with any encouragement. But I received 14 comments, and all of them are filled with great encouragement, and good suggestions.

My personal favourite is this:

I had always feel her sister love, even though we only met in person once (which is about 3 years ago - if not longer). From her being engaged, now she has two kids!

Then these brought me smiles:

And this last one I had to reply:

I have two apps that records my period and cleverly notify me of my Os. And both apps, despite having the same standard settings of 28days cycle, 6-8days long period and 14 day Os. Both apps will give different days of my Os and expected date for my next period.

I am still hesitating to call the Gynae (I am leaning towards the one at Clementi Central). I heard good stuff about her, I am just afraid I wont get an appointment with her following her extreme busy schedule (I know I know, just pick up the phone and call to enquire).

I was also thinking of just visiting the polyclinic for referral, just wonder if it is a better option.

Anyone else care to advice?

A female Gynae to recommend perhaps?

Xoxo,
Anxious wife

Wassalam,
Jun