The things people say when they know I sew

Assalammu'alaikum family, friends, readers and followers of this blog. I know! I havent reviewed in a long time, I was suppose to do on for the Le Meridien but somehow all the photos I took of it disappeared from both my mobile and my husband's. We manage to only salvage a few but it wasnt a good picture of the whole hotel. Or I scrapped that, until I get another stay to take good pictures all over again.

And while I was sulking about the picture loss, it strike me to write this.

The things people say when they know I sew... Jeng jeng jeng...

Hah! Sewing isnt a new thing in my family. My mother sews, my aunty sews, my grandma can do hand stitching very well, my sister can hand sew neatly, so when I sew, it wasn't very extravaganza. Still, I get remarks.

Things my mom said when I first started. Do note that I am a messy girl who don't really care how it looks as long as I can use/wear it, when I first started. So here goes: "You? Sew? People will vomit at your stitches" "Why cant you stitch it right?" "Why arent you using matching thread for the fabric?" "Don't meddle with my tension settings!"

And often without even looking, she can tell I am messing her machine up and she will yell "ARE YOU TRYING TO DESTROY MY MACHINE?"

Haha.. Hey I was starting out and 90% of the time I was not doing any sewing right. So that explains.

I didnt do what she could do at that time. I never attempt to sew apparels. What I did was to sew bags and upcycle stuff. So she can't tell me the how and what nots.

Fast forward to today, when I can more or less sew my own apparels, and even take orders to sew pants and shorts for the children and adults alike, it is a different ball game.

There are various of groups that react very differently to the skill I have. I never knew sewing is a super power skill. LOL!

They would say "Oh you can sew? Can you make me this peplum dress with this flare sleeves?"

Usually I decline. On some weird days, I say okay.. but I am gonna charge it and it wont be cheap.

And they go like "oh you know.. at the supermart it cost like $19, so you should make it for $15"

I went like whaaaatttt?? you are kidding me, right? Material itself cost more than that, if it is cheap, chances are it will feel like garbage against your skin. Secondly, I don't just get fabric, unfold it and say albracadabra for it to become a dress. I need to draft a pattern, pin the pattern to the fabric, cut it, serge it and piece them all together. If you think it just take 1hr, I will tell you to go sew it yourself. What are you thinking??

And then there are people who go like "oh like that, I can send to you my pants and dresses that need alterations la!"

Hold it!! What makes you think sewing = alteration expert? It is a total different arena, baby! Oh no I dont do alterations, and oh no I won't! Even if it is JUST a length alteration, I dont. I wont. And if I do, it would be $15 thank you! So might as well trot yourself to the alteration shop near you who will charge $6-12 for a simple easy piece of alteration.

And then there are people who claim we are cheap to sew our own clothes. Oh yes baby, like a famous quote that always pops up in our community says, "Why buy it for $7 when you can make it yourself for $92 of craft supplies."

Perfect sense to me if you asked! Seriously, if it is soo cheap, everyone would be sewing!

Some like to put it simply like "Can sew me this, I can give you the sample, just sew it like that. Simple one!"

Oh so simple, then do it yourself.

Then they say "Oh i dont have a machine"

So I asked them to come by and use my machine, and I never heard from them since. Maybe they lost my number and address. Oh well.

Oh! Do read this : Top 50 Funny Sewing Quotes.

I could relate to a lot of it and definitely have a good laugh at it too!

Until I find the pictures so I can do a review!
Jun

Wassalam

10/90 rule.

Assalammu'alaikum family, friends, readers and followers of this blog. It has been awhile since I do my reflections on my blog.. So let's just begin with this write-up which often pops up in my feed because I like to be someone who can make a change in someone's mood, who can brighten up someone's day. Apparently, on most days, I just feel I am all alone. Doing it for everyone but myself.

Anyway, this is what the write up is about:

Consider a situation: You're eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears.

After scolding her, you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your wife must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 80 km an hour in a 60 kmph speed limit. After a 15 minute delay and paying a $60 traffic fine, you arrived at school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying good-bye.

After arriving at the office 30 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to going home. When you arrive home you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.

Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the traffic policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase. You come back down in time look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You and your wife kiss before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good a day you are having. Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret:

If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.

How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound the steering wheel till it fall off? Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the blue car ruin your drive.

Remember the 90-10 principle, and do not worry about it! You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? It will work out. Channel your energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why vent out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to read, get to know the other passengers, etc. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. "

Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% how you react to it " - Charles R. Swindoll 

 Everyday, I try my best to not let what happen control how I react, everyday I deliver positive answers. Saying yes to everything but with conditions. Saying yes because I know it would make someone happy even when I know it would be hell for me. Everyday, I do the same ol' thing.

And everyday, noone appreciates it. Noone realise my sacrifice. Noone realise that I too can throw a tsunami into the house and crash the doors and windows. On some days, all I get is scoldings, shoutings, and complains, for the slightest mistake I make. On some days, I get thank yous. On some days, I get people trying to get more out of me. Some days, people just take what's mine as theirs. 

Everyday, I convince myself it is okay. I cannot control what others do to me. Perhaps I have done bad things when I was younger, when I was stupid and naive. Maybe. Maybe. I keep reminding myself that Allah sees, Allah watches, and Allah knows.

On some days, I break down and cry to sleep. Unnoticed. On some days, I wish I am dead, so people will realize my worth, and on some days, I know my worth more than anyone else and stand tall, and walk with my head up. 

On some days, I just can't anymore, and I cry for many days and nights trying to convince myself to just forgive and forget. That it is okay (although it clearly is NOT).

It is going to be a long week. And I hope I get myself back together again, stronger and better for another round of mishandling and trashing. For another round of unappreciated sacrifice. 

An emotional wreck,
Jun

Wassalam