Assalammu'alaikum readers, friends and family,
Hah.. I am back too quick. I just forgot to share that I have recently begin to lean a little on cosmetics. I don't know how it started, but it did.
Anyways, check out the full entry here.
And so that said, yes, JMYc (my registered business entity) has expanded to explore cosmetics. We have soooo much in store for all of you coming mid next month ready to launch for your orders. Do check out the plan here.
And I guess by now, we all know that JMYc will be conducting another mini competition, no? Oh we have a little something in mind, and to know more, follow us in the business blog alright. :)
With that, I would like to extend my thanks and utmost gratitude for the support given, the obstacles planted, and for making be a better, stronger person to pull my business together. Thank you so much! I love you, all of you!
Wassalam,
The budding inspired business owner.
Thursday, August 22, 2013
Wednesday, August 21, 2013
The topic of Hantaran and Academic Certs
Assalammu'alaikum readers, friends and family,
My FB timeline was flooded with sharing of this article, on hantaran, and by a simple question of "Can a female university graduate marry an ITE graduate?"
Interesting topics really. I responded by sharing/replying with my status as such:
and this:
The first, on hantaran, as we all know we Malays have a tradition whereby the groom will give dowry as a gift for the bride's family, right? This is tradition not of any religion requirements. and the article was pretty much about how the trend is to set high dowry amounts for the groom to give the bride's family, and it has become astonishingly sky high. And how the amount was set in line with the bride's educational certs, capabilities, looks and what not. And most parents often give reasons like they are testing the groom's capabilities to care for their daughters.
And so my friends and I responded, me having said as per above in English translation would be : Let it be that no dowry/little dowry or a dowry that is within the groom's affordability and within his reach, as long as he can continue to provide in consistency for the wife's needs after the marriage. Don't splurge and throw a big event just to suffer forever. (and the rest is in English, so no need to translate, right? ;)
And so yes, life after marriage is far more important that that one/two days event, really. Some couple splurge so much and eat grass literally until their next pay, if they are lucky. Some had to continue eating grass for a few months/years, to clear their debts incurred for the event. We, inexperienced, immature people often dish out debts and said (in denial perhaps), that $xxx/month is okay. It is by the calculator okay. It wont hurt. Reality is, expenditure after marriage is just much more than when you're unmarried. You hold more responsibilities than before. Dont forget that we are still liable to pay our bills, help our parents, and chip in double (if you are staying in with them after marriage), we have to also help our in-laws, and if baby comes by.. we have to pay for the baby needs and wants. There are so many to list down. And oh! Your own house! Your house renovation, Your new house's furniture, Your own house utilities, bills, loans, oh the list goes on and on!
I am glad my event was one that is 100% debt free. We survived well. We managed to save more. Alhamdulillah. People talk, let them! You do a cinderella event, they talk. You do a beggars' event, they talk. Let them.. Dont let their talks control you, unless they are paying for all your expenditures.
And so on the second topic, "Can a female university graduate marry an ITE graduate?" Hey hey, why not. I am a uni graduate, I married my ITE graduate husband. We are fine as it is. Marriage is more than just academic certs. Who know 5 yrs down the road, he find time to upgrade and be a Uni Grad as well? Or maybe he would be a business owner with companies and providing jobs for others? Who knows what God has for us?
Marriage is bigger than just academic certs. Marriage requires so much love, positive energy, understanding, trust, compromise, giving and taking, and so much more. Again, the list wont end. I learn a lot from him, and he learn a lot from me. We are a team, and a team achieve together, his success is mine, and my success is ultimately his too. If I fail, he help me up. And if he fail, I nag so much he would get up on his own! ha! no.. I will help him up too. We are not against each other, we are a team. Husband and Wife are a team. Work as one, not against each other. We are great together, we are balanced, never bad. IF one of us is, the other will balance us up. Our vision and mission is ONE. With that, we wont be degrading each other, instead we motivate each other. To a better individual and an awesome team!
Wassalam and Regards,
Jun
My FB timeline was flooded with sharing of this article, on hantaran, and by a simple question of "Can a female university graduate marry an ITE graduate?"
Interesting topics really. I responded by sharing/replying with my status as such:
and this:
The first, on hantaran, as we all know we Malays have a tradition whereby the groom will give dowry as a gift for the bride's family, right? This is tradition not of any religion requirements. and the article was pretty much about how the trend is to set high dowry amounts for the groom to give the bride's family, and it has become astonishingly sky high. And how the amount was set in line with the bride's educational certs, capabilities, looks and what not. And most parents often give reasons like they are testing the groom's capabilities to care for their daughters.
And so my friends and I responded, me having said as per above in English translation would be : Let it be that no dowry/little dowry or a dowry that is within the groom's affordability and within his reach, as long as he can continue to provide in consistency for the wife's needs after the marriage. Don't splurge and throw a big event just to suffer forever. (and the rest is in English, so no need to translate, right? ;)
And so yes, life after marriage is far more important that that one/two days event, really. Some couple splurge so much and eat grass literally until their next pay, if they are lucky. Some had to continue eating grass for a few months/years, to clear their debts incurred for the event. We, inexperienced, immature people often dish out debts and said (in denial perhaps), that $xxx/month is okay. It is by the calculator okay. It wont hurt. Reality is, expenditure after marriage is just much more than when you're unmarried. You hold more responsibilities than before. Dont forget that we are still liable to pay our bills, help our parents, and chip in double (if you are staying in with them after marriage), we have to also help our in-laws, and if baby comes by.. we have to pay for the baby needs and wants. There are so many to list down. And oh! Your own house! Your house renovation, Your new house's furniture, Your own house utilities, bills, loans, oh the list goes on and on!
I am glad my event was one that is 100% debt free. We survived well. We managed to save more. Alhamdulillah. People talk, let them! You do a cinderella event, they talk. You do a beggars' event, they talk. Let them.. Dont let their talks control you, unless they are paying for all your expenditures.
And so on the second topic, "Can a female university graduate marry an ITE graduate?" Hey hey, why not. I am a uni graduate, I married my ITE graduate husband. We are fine as it is. Marriage is more than just academic certs. Who know 5 yrs down the road, he find time to upgrade and be a Uni Grad as well? Or maybe he would be a business owner with companies and providing jobs for others? Who knows what God has for us?
Marriage is bigger than just academic certs. Marriage requires so much love, positive energy, understanding, trust, compromise, giving and taking, and so much more. Again, the list wont end. I learn a lot from him, and he learn a lot from me. We are a team, and a team achieve together, his success is mine, and my success is ultimately his too. If I fail, he help me up. And if he fail, I nag so much he would get up on his own! ha! no.. I will help him up too. We are not against each other, we are a team. Husband and Wife are a team. Work as one, not against each other. We are great together, we are balanced, never bad. IF one of us is, the other will balance us up. Our vision and mission is ONE. With that, we wont be degrading each other, instead we motivate each other. To a better individual and an awesome team!
Wassalam and Regards,
Jun
Thursday, August 15, 2013
Our First Syawal as Husband and Wife
Assalammu'alaikum everyone! Sorry for the delay, I know... It is already 8th Syawal 1434! How time flies eh?
Here is my recap (pls bare this very long entry!)
1st Syawal:
And so this Syawal is the first of our many. Our morning started early, like super early! He made a special request for his ultra sensitive tummy, and so Mom & I (oh well, mom mostly), cooked all our dishes on Syawal morning instead of the usual night before so we can breakfast with the Syawal feast.
We made it. We were up and early doing all the last minute set ups as usual, while the men get off for the Eid prayers. Father went to Darussalam as per usual, while husband headed down to Assyakirin. I prepared the outfits we are going to wear, and clean up (sweep and mop, again!). I dunno where all the dust come, it just would come to stay every day - one day of not sweeping and it felt dusty to the toes.
I had all prep out, so was just helping husband filling up his envelopes. We seeked my parents' forgiveness ahead before anyone comes so I can take the time to get ready. Ummi Yam and family were first to reach my place, Mama H and kids were a lil late but they made it just minutes after my driver called me to say he is waiting downstairs. We took plenty of family potraits. A full strenght of 12! I was very happy that we managed to stay as a family this time round.
I sponsored a van with a driver so we can stick together the whole of 1st Syawal. No getting lost on our way and no waiting time lost. Awesome! I rented out the high roof, fully air-con 13-seater van at $45/hr (min 3 hrs). I booked for 6hrs, ended up using him for almost 7hrs. ;)
It was really nice getting the family together with all smiles and nothing less. And so we covered 6houses, Alhamdulillah.
1st house: Granny's (maternal) / 6th Uncle and family
- My 2nd Uncle and family was there
- My 4th Aunty and family was there
I made the first move, and I felt good. Regardless. Period. I just hope all can be put behind and not raised again. We all ought to learn from mistakes. What do we gain by keeping grudges, building up hatred over time? Nothing. Satan wins, and all of us loses. I rather lose my face and just step forward to seek forgiveness first regardless the age. I hope everyone will continue to confront me when I do mistakes, instead of bickering behind my back. And I hope I am given enough wisdom to do the same for others. Solve at the roots, not at its weak branches. *self note*
2nd house: Granny Hasnah (maternal grandad's sister)/ her daugher(s) and family
-One of my 2nd cousin and family was there as well.
We took down numbers to contact (because we were planning to head up north to visit relatives for the 1st time after decades)
Ate their signature sambal sotong and the men enjoyed the signature TAPAI! Tummy happy!
3rd house: A man of honour (one of mom's granduncle)
- we used to stay here for at least 3 years. This granduncle offered his new place for us to stay in when we were stripped homeless back then. We will forever be grateful to his kindness, especially now when he is sickly, he will always be in our prayers.
4th house: Granny Esah (maternal granny's sister)/her daughter and grandaughter
- One of the aunties just left and we missed them.
We didnt stay too long here.. But mission accomplished.
5th house: Mama H
- all 12 of us hit down to be less formal and just lepak for awhile.
6th house: Ummi Yam
- all 12 of us hit down to be less formal and just lepak for awhile. We invited the driver up to fill his tummy! And because he is around, we managed a full strength family photo! It looked awesome!
Last drop-off: My place
We were dropped off back at my place. Ummi Yam's car was here, so ya. We planned for another full strength family photo but we all forgot about it over food. Haha... The men started being silly and we all had a great family laugh and fun together. Alhamdulillah. May our family expand and fill each other with more love and warmth! Amin!!
2nd Syawal:
We visited both maternal and paternal grandad's grave. Maternal grandad's grave will be exumed and moved to the new site on 21st, so we decide to visit before then. Alhamdulillah, we managed to sedekah Al-fateha and recite Yassin for them both (we always do after our fardhu's when time permits)
And then, I got really sick, and ended up sleeping most of the day, Paternal aunt came by, husband served them most of the time, I could only afford to give orders.
That night, we packed. Our plans have been made! We are heading down to husband's hometown in Muar, then up north to KL! MasyaAllah... I was excited!
In that excitement, I packed 3 bags full. Don't ask! 20% of what was packed wasnt used at end of trip. pfft.
3rd Syawal:
We made our way as early as 7am! we reached Muar, Johor around 1ish - I think.
We stayed at Mok Teh's house for awhile before heading out to Mom's foster brother's house. Both brothers tried calling the others to get them to come to catch us through our stay, they showed us some photos too, and it made mom recall all the fond memories.
We made it back to Mok Teh's house to rest and wait for the rest of his family to reach, but just before that, Mom's foster's brother called, another brother had made it home with his family and asked us to make it back there to catch up, and so we did..
Not too long after we were deep in the conversations, another brother made it back. It felt so warm to have such relations. They went on and on recalling fond memories. One of the brother described how he tried to teach my mom how to cycle. It failed, and mom never knew how to cycle till date. Haha! We all chatted like we were never apart! So friendly and warm! And I miss them already.
We headed back to Mok Teh's place, and decided to stay over at Mak Long Lama's house just down the street.
4th Syawal:
We got up early again. Getting ready to hit up north. We waited for breakfast and made it out at 9.30ish.
The trip up north was super long! We made it to Obek Sujud (father's cousin) 's house sometime after 2pm. We didnt rest much and headed down to mom's cousin's place (total of 3houses). Such a long day, and husband got grumpy - who would dare blame him? No rest since the night before, and made to drive over such long hours! We made it back to Obek Sujud's house at 6ish to rest till the next day before we head home.
Then, there is this girl (Obek Sujud's granddaughter). She is pretty much like my husband's long lost daughter. They both had the same attitude and friendly aura! They couldnt stop talking and entertaining us. Haha! I miss that girl!
5th Syawal:
We head off from Obek Sujud's house at 9.30am. midway at Air Keroh Jejatas R&R, we decided to drop by my 2nd cousin's place at Enau, JB. And so we did.
We headed down for dinner at Ayer Rajah Food Court, and finally made it home at 7ish in the evening! My oh my..
6th-8th Syawal:
Back to reality, back to work... we are still tired from the weekend trip, really.
And so here I wish everyone Selamat Hari Raya, Maaf Zahir dan Batin. Forgive all my wrongdoings, my typos, my past rantings, and everything bad... Pls continue to confront me when I do wrong, so I can correct them, so I can seek forgiveness before hatred can be build within. Thank you.
PS: FIL is due for his eye surgery next week, pls spare him 2seconds, pray for a smooth operation and may he spring back to health soonest.. :)
That is all I have for now. Till we meet again,
Wassalam,
Jun
Here is my recap (pls bare this very long entry!)
1st Syawal:
And so this Syawal is the first of our many. Our morning started early, like super early! He made a special request for his ultra sensitive tummy, and so Mom & I (oh well, mom mostly), cooked all our dishes on Syawal morning instead of the usual night before so we can breakfast with the Syawal feast.
We made it. We were up and early doing all the last minute set ups as usual, while the men get off for the Eid prayers. Father went to Darussalam as per usual, while husband headed down to Assyakirin. I prepared the outfits we are going to wear, and clean up (sweep and mop, again!). I dunno where all the dust come, it just would come to stay every day - one day of not sweeping and it felt dusty to the toes.
I had all prep out, so was just helping husband filling up his envelopes. We seeked my parents' forgiveness ahead before anyone comes so I can take the time to get ready. Ummi Yam and family were first to reach my place, Mama H and kids were a lil late but they made it just minutes after my driver called me to say he is waiting downstairs. We took plenty of family potraits. A full strenght of 12! I was very happy that we managed to stay as a family this time round.
I sponsored a van with a driver so we can stick together the whole of 1st Syawal. No getting lost on our way and no waiting time lost. Awesome! I rented out the high roof, fully air-con 13-seater van at $45/hr (min 3 hrs). I booked for 6hrs, ended up using him for almost 7hrs. ;)
It was really nice getting the family together with all smiles and nothing less. And so we covered 6houses, Alhamdulillah.
1st house: Granny's (maternal) / 6th Uncle and family
- My 2nd Uncle and family was there
- My 4th Aunty and family was there
I made the first move, and I felt good. Regardless. Period. I just hope all can be put behind and not raised again. We all ought to learn from mistakes. What do we gain by keeping grudges, building up hatred over time? Nothing. Satan wins, and all of us loses. I rather lose my face and just step forward to seek forgiveness first regardless the age. I hope everyone will continue to confront me when I do mistakes, instead of bickering behind my back. And I hope I am given enough wisdom to do the same for others. Solve at the roots, not at its weak branches. *self note*
2nd house: Granny Hasnah (maternal grandad's sister)/ her daugher(s) and family
-One of my 2nd cousin and family was there as well.
We took down numbers to contact (because we were planning to head up north to visit relatives for the 1st time after decades)
Ate their signature sambal sotong and the men enjoyed the signature TAPAI! Tummy happy!
3rd house: A man of honour (one of mom's granduncle)
- we used to stay here for at least 3 years. This granduncle offered his new place for us to stay in when we were stripped homeless back then. We will forever be grateful to his kindness, especially now when he is sickly, he will always be in our prayers.
4th house: Granny Esah (maternal granny's sister)/her daughter and grandaughter
- One of the aunties just left and we missed them.
We didnt stay too long here.. But mission accomplished.
5th house: Mama H
- all 12 of us hit down to be less formal and just lepak for awhile.
6th house: Ummi Yam
- all 12 of us hit down to be less formal and just lepak for awhile. We invited the driver up to fill his tummy! And because he is around, we managed a full strength family photo! It looked awesome!
Last drop-off: My place
We were dropped off back at my place. Ummi Yam's car was here, so ya. We planned for another full strength family photo but we all forgot about it over food. Haha... The men started being silly and we all had a great family laugh and fun together. Alhamdulillah. May our family expand and fill each other with more love and warmth! Amin!!
2nd Syawal:
We visited both maternal and paternal grandad's grave. Maternal grandad's grave will be exumed and moved to the new site on 21st, so we decide to visit before then. Alhamdulillah, we managed to sedekah Al-fateha and recite Yassin for them both (we always do after our fardhu's when time permits)
And then, I got really sick, and ended up sleeping most of the day, Paternal aunt came by, husband served them most of the time, I could only afford to give orders.
That night, we packed. Our plans have been made! We are heading down to husband's hometown in Muar, then up north to KL! MasyaAllah... I was excited!
In that excitement, I packed 3 bags full. Don't ask! 20% of what was packed wasnt used at end of trip. pfft.
3rd Syawal:
We made our way as early as 7am! we reached Muar, Johor around 1ish - I think.
We stayed at Mok Teh's house for awhile before heading out to Mom's foster brother's house. Both brothers tried calling the others to get them to come to catch us through our stay, they showed us some photos too, and it made mom recall all the fond memories.
We made it back to Mok Teh's house to rest and wait for the rest of his family to reach, but just before that, Mom's foster's brother called, another brother had made it home with his family and asked us to make it back there to catch up, and so we did..
Not too long after we were deep in the conversations, another brother made it back. It felt so warm to have such relations. They went on and on recalling fond memories. One of the brother described how he tried to teach my mom how to cycle. It failed, and mom never knew how to cycle till date. Haha! We all chatted like we were never apart! So friendly and warm! And I miss them already.
We headed back to Mok Teh's place, and decided to stay over at Mak Long Lama's house just down the street.
4th Syawal:
We got up early again. Getting ready to hit up north. We waited for breakfast and made it out at 9.30ish.
The trip up north was super long! We made it to Obek Sujud (father's cousin) 's house sometime after 2pm. We didnt rest much and headed down to mom's cousin's place (total of 3houses). Such a long day, and husband got grumpy - who would dare blame him? No rest since the night before, and made to drive over such long hours! We made it back to Obek Sujud's house at 6ish to rest till the next day before we head home.
Then, there is this girl (Obek Sujud's granddaughter). She is pretty much like my husband's long lost daughter. They both had the same attitude and friendly aura! They couldnt stop talking and entertaining us. Haha! I miss that girl!
5th Syawal:
We head off from Obek Sujud's house at 9.30am. midway at Air Keroh Jejatas R&R, we decided to drop by my 2nd cousin's place at Enau, JB. And so we did.
We headed down for dinner at Ayer Rajah Food Court, and finally made it home at 7ish in the evening! My oh my..
6th-8th Syawal:
Back to reality, back to work... we are still tired from the weekend trip, really.
And so here I wish everyone Selamat Hari Raya, Maaf Zahir dan Batin. Forgive all my wrongdoings, my typos, my past rantings, and everything bad... Pls continue to confront me when I do wrong, so I can correct them, so I can seek forgiveness before hatred can be build within. Thank you.
PS: FIL is due for his eye surgery next week, pls spare him 2seconds, pray for a smooth operation and may he spring back to health soonest.. :)
That is all I have for now. Till we meet again,
Wassalam,
Jun
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