Salam everyone, I hope all is well with you like it is for me. May the weekend be filled with much bliss and happiness, insyaAllah.
I just feel like writing about what I think about being a housewife as compared to a career woman...
Everyone said being a housewife aint easy, and that if I'm given the choice, I should opt to work and live a career life. Guess what? I never said being a housewife is easy, I know being a housewife would mean having to work all the time 24/7 round the clock with a routine to keep the house tip top. And know something, that's what I want in my life. To always be at home, running after kids, and waiting for the man of the house to rescue me with a kiss and prepare his meal. And no, not everyone thinks alike. I'm as different as can be. I always believe that what's good for you, may not be good for me, and what's bad for you, may very well be my medicine.
Well, I can see a whole lot of benefits staying home as compared to be working in a corporate line. I grew up with my mom always being at home, and somehow I felt secure knowing she will always be there when i head home, and often, I had a panic attack when mom isn't home for some reason. And it goes a long long way, I appreciate my mom more, and we had this bond that some of my friend didnt with thier working mom. When I feel down, all I need a phonecall to my mom. Sometimes, it wasnt even me picking the phone, sometimes she'd call me like as if she knows I need her.
It wasn't the toys she buy me that mattered. It's the time she spent with me. It's the reassuring voice that keeps telling me to run small errands... It's the constant nagging that reminds me how I should get things done. All of these are the little things that mattered to me now.
Although I had seen how she sacrificed and work all day just to get us ready, cooking a meal that everyone likes, cleaning the house to make sure my sister wont get an ashtma and to make sure I dun get my rashes, sanitizing the room when someone falls sick, so others won't be affected. Make sure we sleep and wakes up on time. I know how tiring it can be. Being a housewife is not at all easy. Not even the tiniest bit. You know what she tells me, and I asked her what her biggest reward was being a housewife? She said, "my children, their smiles, their hugs, their kisses and watching them grow without missing anything out" And that is what I wanted to see. I wanna see everything my children do, what they learn, how they change.. I wanna be there. I dun wanna be at work, and only hearing my maid or mom to call me and update me. I don't wanna have anyone else taking care of my children, I want live updates, not a voice update or video update.
I know some career mothers, who often end up being torn. My sisters are working moms, who send their kids to parents or babysitters. They still go home after picking up the children and still have to complete the household chores. Quality time spent with children are really limited. And one of my sister with her short temper, often end up scolding her children when the chores gets overloaded and too much to handle, especially when children didnt put their dirty clothes in the correct baskets, or forgot to put their dirty shoes at the right places to be washed, etc etc.
So, pls stop telling me how I dunno about the challenges a housewife face, because whatever the challenge is, I'm ready to face it because I think that's good for me and my family. anyways, there's always home business to supplement income if needed be. ;)
Although I had seen how she sacrificed and work all day just to get us ready, cooking a meal that everyone likes, cleaning the house to make sure my sister wont get an ashtma and to make sure I dun get my rashes, sanitizing the room when someone falls sick, so others won't be affected. Make sure we sleep and wakes up on time. I know how tiring it can be. Being a housewife is not at all easy. Not even the tiniest bit. You know what she tells me, and I asked her what her biggest reward was being a housewife? She said, "my children, their smiles, their hugs, their kisses and watching them grow without missing anything out" And that is what I wanted to see. I wanna see everything my children do, what they learn, how they change.. I wanna be there. I dun wanna be at work, and only hearing my maid or mom to call me and update me. I don't wanna have anyone else taking care of my children, I want live updates, not a voice update or video update.
I know some career mothers, who often end up being torn. My sisters are working moms, who send their kids to parents or babysitters. They still go home after picking up the children and still have to complete the household chores. Quality time spent with children are really limited. And one of my sister with her short temper, often end up scolding her children when the chores gets overloaded and too much to handle, especially when children didnt put their dirty clothes in the correct baskets, or forgot to put their dirty shoes at the right places to be washed, etc etc.
So, pls stop telling me how I dunno about the challenges a housewife face, because whatever the challenge is, I'm ready to face it because I think that's good for me and my family. anyways, there's always home business to supplement income if needed be. ;)
Btw, I'm a degree holder, and yes, I could have just worked myself in the corporate line earning big bucks, but no, I dun think it's really necessary.. I'll let my man do that, unless he rings the help button. And no, pls dun use this to psyco your gf/fiance/wife to be a housewife because not all women are made to stay home. =)
Have a great weekend ahead!
Have a great weekend ahead!
Love,
Jun Yusof
Jun Yusof
